Thursday, May 08, 2003

Work has been difficult recently (last two weeks) - struggling with lack of motivation. Sometimes, it just ain't all that fun, ya know?? Today, I discover once again, that every day, God will provide enough strength to be faithful for a day at a time. So, by faith, I trust God to provide strength, and I can set my mind on simply putting one foot in front of the other - taking care of business - and God proves himself abundantly faithful to provide. It's not painless, but it's far better than doing it on my own. ... Reading further in the previously mentioned book ... man, I've only read a few more pages and it has a great explanation for "the gift of singleness." A bit different from what I originally understood. Anybody wanna borrow this book when I'm done?? It could help alleviate pressures & fears ...
"In a groundbreaking 1990 article about "twentysomethings", Time magazine reported that this generation of young adults "postpone marriage because they dread divorce." Because the members of Generation X are the sons and daughters of the most-divorced generation in American history, today's young adults are slower to make marriage decisions in hopes of not repeating the mistakes of their parents. They "are not in any rush to get married, hoping that by waiting, time will bring a more compatible mate and the maturity to avoid divorce." Statistics indicate that divorce rates are lower for people who wait to marry. One sociologist concluded, "Divorce rates are lowest for both men and women who marry for the first time at age 28 or later." While statistics suggest that many of today's young adults will eventually marry, the fact that they are currently postponing marriage means that people are staying single longer. There is a fear of marrying to quickly to somebody who is not "right" for them. Related to this is "relationship burnout." Many young adults have had painful experiences with relationships, including sexual abuse, date rape, codependency and other dysfunctional situations. Many singles who desire a close relationship find themselves incapable of trust and commitment. "Fear of commitment not only causes some to bail out of perfectly good relationships but others to avoid dating altogether." The general feeling is, "Better not to get too close to anyone; I don't want to get hurt again."
Yeah, this was part of what I found to be quite accurate, in my life and the lives of some of my buddies & peers ...